…a man who is proud of her, who loves her even when she is ugly, someone who is on time even if she is running late, who doesn’t mind when she changes her mind a million times.
How many of you have heard one of these phrases from someone every time you go through a break up?
“Well, at least you learned something…”
“Now you know what you are looking for out of a
relationship.”
“There is someone better out there for you.”
These are all SO true despite the fact that nothing anyone
can say will really make you feel better.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how every relationship
does teach you something about yourself, about what you need out of a
relationship and what you won’t stand for, about how when you do find that
right person, all of the trials and tribulations will be worth it because it
all brought you to this person.
I can’t help but think with the dating I’ve done and
still have yet to do, all the “lessons” I’ve learned about relationships and
the things I’ve learned I’m looking for in a relationship, that by the time I
find the right person, I won’t realize it because I have way too many “criteria”
at that point. I can’t help but wonder if “kissing lots of frogs before we meet
our prince charming” might end up making us too picky, too selective.
I may be overthinking this, but I guess I’m a little nervous that the more you date, the more choosy you become, making it even harder to meet someone (or give someone a chance) who can make you happy.
Reminder to myself and
those of you in the same boat: Let’s not forget to keep an open mind. It’s
important to know what we want, but we also need to know that we want and what
we need can sometimes be different. You don’t know unless you give it a shot.
