Any Man of Mine

Shania Twain’s “Any Man of Mine” is one of those country songs that never gets old. You have to hand it to her...the girl knows what she wants…

…a man who is proud of her, who loves her even when she is ugly, someone who is on time even if she is running late, who doesn’t mind when she changes her mind a million times.

How many of you have heard one of these phrases from someone every time you go through a break up?

“Well, at least you learned something…”

“Now you know what you are looking for out of a relationship.”

“There is someone better out there for you.”

These are all SO true despite the fact that nothing anyone can say will really make you feel better.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how every relationship does teach you something about yourself, about what you need out of a relationship and what you won’t stand for, about how when you do find that right person, all of the trials and tribulations will be worth it because it all brought you to this person.

I can’t help but think with the dating I’ve done and still have yet to do, all the “lessons” I’ve learned about relationships and the things I’ve learned I’m looking for in a relationship, that by the time I find the right person, I won’t realize it because I have way too many “criteria” at that point. I can’t help but wonder if “kissing lots of frogs before we meet our prince charming” might end up making us too picky, too selective.

I may be overthinking this, but I guess I’m a little nervous that the more you date, the more choosy you become, making it even harder to meet someone (or give someone a chance) who can make you happy.

Reminder to myself and those of you in the same boat: Let’s not forget to keep an open mind. It’s important to know what we want, but we also need to know that we want and what we need can sometimes be different. You don’t know unless you give it a shot.